Good morning all,
Lately I haven't been spending as much time on FF as I have HV. I'm not sure exactly why this is but there are a good number of folks here on FF with whom I have missed our conversations and for that, let me extend my apologies. Although there are fewer regular posters on FF as compared to HV, the total wisdom here far surpasses that on HV and with that in mind allow me to ask for thoughts, insights and comments on the following:
Click here (http://www.hogville.net/yabbse/index.php?topic=588867.new#new) (and please I am linking to this HV post and not pasting it here to save a bit of space).
As much as we may think they don't, the times are always changing. Sometimes perhaps, so slowly we can't even see it but yet change occurs all around us.
Have to log in to HV to get the link up. Copy and paste the main theme?
Forgot about that Valley - thanks for the heads up!
Here it is:
In another thread, Gawntrail made the following comment:
QuoteTransitioning from kids in house to empty nest makes one think about what is most important in a new place.
I'm not quite as far along as Gawntrail in this process (meaning the nest is emptying, not yet emptied) but I'm already dreading the day the nest is empty. For as many plans, hopes and dreams as our family has had throughout the years with respect to our kids, the wife and I have never really thought about this transition period. Moving from a full nest to an empty one - with a good block of time before we can retire - is a period of life that just never entered into our thinking.
Certainly that's our fault for not being thorough in our planning but at the same time, I wonder if people really consider this transition time (from empty nest to retirement) as they make life plans.
In reflecting on life's events and trends up to (and including) present day, something I truly wish I had handled better is the management of interests and hobbies. When I think back to life before our kids, we always had something going on. As the kids came along, our interests and hobbies slowly (but steadily) faded away - replaced by the activities, sports and pursuits related to our children.
How do you put the genie back in the bottle after all these years (so to speak)? How does one pick up where they left off all those years ago with their interests and hobbies - or does one just look for new interests and hobbies considering that we may not be the same person today we were so many years ago?
I wish I could recall who said this in another thread (as I would give them proper credit for a very wise observation) but their quote went something like this: as I get older, I find myself having less time and patience with other people.
In the end, I'm curious about how others view and handled this transition in life. Sorry to ramble on a Sunday morning......
Poster's are spot on - we've gone empty nest over the last 2 yrs and I retired 2 months ago, because of the devastating effect it's had on me. Those plans, hopes, & dreams, are what's thrown me. All of a sudden I just want to live another 20 yrs, until I'm ricepig's age. I realize why some people should not retire or retire, then go back to work - thankfully I'm not one of those. Grandchildren are the safety net - one reason I retired. I'm in a steep learning curve, but I've discovered that you have to have a routine - get up and go somewhere in the morning, to get the day started. If you don't, it'll be noon before you know it. I've just picked my coffee/breakfast club at a local mom n pops. LOL These clubs are all over town. Hobbies change - I'm playing Pickle Ball, still hit the weights & jog, duck/deer hunt (many acres of food plots to maintain). I'm glad I've always enjoyed training - part of that routine now. I'll have to see what all four season's bring - but Crappie Fishing is coming, Turkey Hunting, golf, flying, motorcycling, might take some trips,,, maybe I need some direction. ha ha
I don't know if you in your old age, or that V-Rod can hang, but we're riding up to Sturgis this summer.
LOL - I went back and added the motorcycle, just to see if I'd get an invite.
Seven - I just got a call from a coworker, retired when I did. He's bored. But he waited too long to retire - arthritis has set in.
My Kid is a JR and if her SR year goes bye as fast as her Jr one has I will be empty nested sooner than I expected.
Is your (current) junior daughter your youngest, Lions84?
Quote from: sevenof400 on March 06, 2015, 12:26:48 pm
Is your (current) junior daughter your youngest, Lions84?
She is our only one. Mommy's oven broke and we never were able to have anymore.
Well I reread this and I am sure now I am not as excited as I was about her becoming a SR this Fall 2015. The Time gone bye too fast.
Quote from: Lions84 on April 14, 2015, 10:58:12 am
Well I reread this and I am sure now I am not as excited as I was about her becoming a SR this Fall 2015. The Time gone bye too fast.
Indeed it does Lions84. In two years, all of ours will be gone - either off to college or in the military.
Honestly getting old sucks, Lions84 - but the only thing we can do is go after this next chapter as enthusiastic as the last. After taking my bride out on the town this evening (4pm), we dropped in on our grandbabies for a quick fix. It's gonna happen - only thing we can control is how we approach it...
Quote from: Valleysports on February 22, 2015, 06:44:50 pm
Poster's are spot on - we've gone empty nest over the last 2 yrs and I retired 2 months ago, because of the devastating effect it's had on me. Those plans, hopes, & dreams, are what's thrown me. All of a sudden I just want to live another 20 yrs, until I'm ricepig's age. I realize why some people should not retire or retire, then go back to work - thankfully I'm not one of those. Grandchildren are the safety net - one reason I retired. I'm in a steep learning curve, but I've discovered that you have to have a routine - get up and go somewhere in the morning, to get the day started. If you don't, it'll be noon before you know it. I've just picked my coffee/breakfast club at a local mom n pops. LOL These clubs are all over town. Hobbies change - I'm playing Pickle Ball, still hit the weights & jog, duck/deer hunt (many acres of food plots to maintain). I'm glad I've always enjoyed training - part of that routine now. I'll have to see what all four season's bring - but Crappie Fishing is coming, Turkey Hunting, golf, flying, motorcycling, might take some trips,,, maybe I need some direction. ha ha
Retire - Naw -- Heck no. Heck no again. When I can't get it done anymore I think I will got myself lost among a billion chinese and eat rice until the good lord takes pity on me and brings me home.
Valley - go to this site for your crappie fishing. Dude they are catching monsters on your local lake.
http://www.crappie.com/crappie/arkansas/
Quote from: fastdrop on April 15, 2015, 08:17:50 am
Quote from: Valleysports on February 22, 2015, 06:44:50 pm
Poster's are spot on - we've gone empty nest over the last 2 yrs and I retired 2 months ago, because of the devastating effect it's had on me. Those plans, hopes, & dreams, are what's thrown me. All of a sudden I just want to live another 20 yrs, until I'm ricepig's age. I realize why some people should not retire or retire, then go back to work - thankfully I'm not one of those. Grandchildren are the safety net - one reason I retired. I'm in a steep learning curve, but I've discovered that you have to have a routine - get up and go somewhere in the morning, to get the day started. If you don't, it'll be noon before you know it. I've just picked my coffee/breakfast club at a local mom n pops. LOL These clubs are all over town. Hobbies change - I'm playing Pickle Ball, still hit the weights & jog, duck/deer hunt (many acres of food plots to maintain). I'm glad I've always enjoyed training - part of that routine now. I'll have to see what all four season's bring - but Crappie Fishing is coming, Turkey Hunting, golf, flying, motorcycling, might take some trips,,, maybe I need some direction. ha ha
Retire - Naw -- Heck no. Heck no again. When I can't get it done anymore I think I will got myself lost among a billion chinese and eat rice until the good lord takes pity on me and brings me home.
You got something against eating rice? My oldest goes to China the day after he graduates for 3 weeks, part of his MBA program, 3 weeks for 6 hours of credit.
Quote from: Valleysports on April 14, 2015, 08:39:45 pm
Honestly getting old sucks, Lions84 - but the only thing we can do is go after this next chapter as enthusiastic as the last. After taking my bride out on the town this evening (4pm), we dropped in on our grandbabies for a quick fix. It's gonna happen - only thing we can control is how we approach it...
Right in about 8 years we will both be retired and I hoping to move back to Arkansas.
Quote from: fastdrop on April 15, 2015, 08:25:58 am
Valley - go to this site for your crappie fishing. Dude they are catching monsters on your local lake.
http://www.crappie.com/crappie/arkansas/
Who do you think THEY is? If I see those guys tomorrow, I'm gonna tell them to stop flapping their gums! ;D
Quote from: Valleysports on April 15, 2015, 03:42:19 pm
Quote from: fastdrop on April 15, 2015, 08:25:58 am
Valley - go to this site for your crappie fishing. Dude they are catching monsters on your local lake.
http://www.crappie.com/crappie/arkansas/
Who do you think THEY is? If I see those guys tomorrow, I'm gonna tell them to stop flapping their gums! ;D
LOL...too late. THEY sure know how to catch them.
Quote from: ricepig on April 15, 2015, 02:59:02 pm
Quote from: fastdrop on April 15, 2015, 08:17:50 am
Quote from: Valleysports on February 22, 2015, 06:44:50 pm
Poster's are spot on - we've gone empty nest over the last 2 yrs and I retired 2 months ago, because of the devastating effect it's had on me. Those plans, hopes, & dreams, are what's thrown me. All of a sudden I just want to live another 20 yrs, until I'm ricepig's age. I realize why some people should not retire or retire, then go back to work - thankfully I'm not one of those. Grandchildren are the safety net - one reason I retired. I'm in a steep learning curve, but I've discovered that you have to have a routine - get up and go somewhere in the morning, to get the day started. If you don't, it'll be noon before you know it. I've just picked my coffee/breakfast club at a local mom n pops. LOL These clubs are all over town. Hobbies change - I'm playing Pickle Ball, still hit the weights & jog, duck/deer hunt (many acres of food plots to maintain). I'm glad I've always enjoyed training - part of that routine now. I'll have to see what all four season's bring - but Crappie Fishing is coming, Turkey Hunting, golf, flying, motorcycling, might take some trips,,, maybe I need some direction. ha ha
Retire - Naw -- Heck no. Heck no again. When I can't get it done anymore I think I will got myself lost among a billion chinese and eat rice until the good lord takes pity on me and brings me home.
You got something against eating rice? My oldest goes to China the day after he graduates for 3 weeks, part of his MBA program, 3 weeks for 6 hours of credit.
He will have a good time. Good deal for him. He better make some friends since they own us. HA
My son is in Germany for 8 weeks learning some secret logistical operating system they are putting in a factory outside of KC. Who would of ever thunk it.
Quote from: fastdrop on April 15, 2015, 04:53:15 pm
Quote from: ricepig on April 15, 2015, 02:59:02 pm
Quote from: fastdrop on April 15, 2015, 08:17:50 am
Quote from: Valleysports on February 22, 2015, 06:44:50 pm
Poster's are spot on - we've gone empty nest over the last 2 yrs and I retired 2 months ago, because of the devastating effect it's had on me. Those plans, hopes, & dreams, are what's thrown me. All of a sudden I just want to live another 20 yrs, until I'm ricepig's age. I realize why some people should not retire or retire, then go back to work - thankfully I'm not one of those. Grandchildren are the safety net - one reason I retired. I'm in a steep learning curve, but I've discovered that you have to have a routine - get up and go somewhere in the morning, to get the day started. If you don't, it'll be noon before you know it. I've just picked my coffee/breakfast club at a local mom n pops. LOL These clubs are all over town. Hobbies change - I'm playing Pickle Ball, still hit the weights & jog, duck/deer hunt (many acres of food plots to maintain). I'm glad I've always enjoyed training - part of that routine now. I'll have to see what all four season's bring - but Crappie Fishing is coming, Turkey Hunting, golf, flying, motorcycling, might take some trips,,, maybe I need some direction. ha ha
Retire - Naw -- Heck no. Heck no again. When I can't get it done anymore I think I will got myself lost among a billion chinese and eat rice until the good lord takes pity on me and brings me home.
You got something against eating rice? My oldest goes to China the day after he graduates for 3 weeks, part of his MBA program, 3 weeks for 6 hours of credit.
He will have a good time. Good deal for him. He better make some friends since they own us. HA
My son is in Germany for 8 weeks learning some secret logistical operating system they are putting in a factory outside of KC. Who would of ever thunk it.
Well, he really wanted to go to Brazil and the beach, but they were slow on letting him know, so he signed up for the China trip. Naturally after he accepted the China trip, they told him he was good for Brazil. I told him that would be one of many of his "disappointments" in life, lol. He actually thinks the China trip will be better, except for the beach thingy.
Good for him we have moved into a Global Economy.
Brother my daughter had her last Friday of school and will finish her JR year Thursday. Me and Momma are getting prepped for College Schollies paperwork and applications. I found a photo on my work PC today and wondered where did the time gone.
2 more months and my nest will be empty. I just hope my wife still likes me when I'm the only one around
Quote from: cuckoobird on June 02, 2015, 09:19:27 am
2 more months and my nest will be empty. I just hope my wife still likes me when I'm the only one around
Lot of truth in that statement - needle seems to fall one way or the other after kids leave or retirement. Have seen a lot of men discover their wife had been scheming, for years, once they met her financial goals. Best to keep her allowance below Walmart Wages!
Quote from: Valleysports on June 02, 2015, 11:18:43 am
Quote from: cuckoobird on June 02, 2015, 09:19:27 am
2 more months and my nest will be empty. I just hope my wife still likes me when I'm the only one around
Lot of truth in that statement - needle seems to fall one way or the other after kids leave or retirement. Have seen a lot of men discover their wife had been scheming, for years, once they met her financial goals. Best to keep her allowance below Walmart Wages!
I don't have to worry about the financial part, you can't get something from nothing....
Quote from: Valleysports on June 02, 2015, 11:18:43 am
Quote from: cuckoobird on June 02, 2015, 09:19:27 am
2 more months and my nest will be empty. I just hope my wife still likes me when I'm the only one around
Lot of truth in that statement - needle seems to fall one way or the other after kids leave or retirement. Have seen a lot of men discover their wife had been scheming, for years, once they met her financial goals. Best to keep her allowance below Walmart Wages!
A good friend of mine told me it wasn't the money they weren't making when your wife quit her job, it was the money she couldn't spend while she was working!
Quote from: cuckoobird on June 02, 2015, 09:19:27 am
2 more months and my nest will be empty. I just hope my wife still likes me when I'm the only one around
My wife and I will be trasitioning to the empty nest in the next two plus years. Though I will miss our kids when they get out of the house, I'm looking forward to the next chapter of our lives. Our kids are able to kind of do their own thing now and it has given me a taste of what it will be like to have her all to myself again. I kinda like that thought.
Me and the wife been talking about what we will do after our daughter goes to college a year from now.
Buying a camper to do some traveling. Albeit to follow the son at different college venues but still getting out of the house
Quote from: cuckoobird on September 01, 2015, 10:31:10 am
Buying a camper to do some traveling. Albeit to follow the son at different college venues but still getting out of the house
Where did Cuckoo Jr. end up at?
Uapb along with brown from Stuttgart
First game of the Fall was last week down here and the SR Express has pulled out of the Station and it gaining speed.
You're going to kill over when she gets married! :-\
Quote from: Valleysports on September 03, 2015, 01:07:57 pm
You're going to kill over when she gets married! :-\
She moved awful slow with any boys. She gets a BF for Homecoming and usually breaks up a month later. She is a serious student.
Oh you've got a lot to learn - haha. I've had two serious student daughters, one is still in med school. Serious BF for several years, means no incentive to come home. And now the son has a GF. Mom's cooking has competition! :'(
Did my Last Cheerleader & Parent night for the Booster Club at the Concession Stand. Time is marching own.
I cooked 200 hamburgers and 150 hot dogs.
Quote from: Lions84 on September 04, 2015, 11:52:51 am
Did my Last Cheerleader & Parent night for the Booster Club at the Concession Stand. Time is marching own.
I cooked 200 hamburgers and 150 hot dogs.
Wouldn't you hate to know how many you have cooked over the years? ;)
Quote from: sevenof400 on September 04, 2015, 11:57:47 am
Quote from: Lions84 on September 04, 2015, 11:52:51 am
Did my Last Cheerleader & Parent night for the Booster Club at the Concession Stand. Time is marching own.
I cooked 200 hamburgers and 150 hot dogs.
Wouldn't you hate to know how many you have cooked over the years? ;)
More than I want to try and count.
We are having an early HC this week for her SR year.
I don't know if my son will ever be able to live on his own. I know if he is able, that would be a blessing for him and many answered prayers to be functionally independent and ultimately I pray for those skills for him but I don't know if I could handle him not being with me. I know God will have to provide. My son is my life.
Quote from: PrivateLesson on September 18, 2015, 05:18:32 am
I don't know if my son will ever be able to live on his own. I know if he is able, that would be a blessing for him and many answered prayers to be functionally independent and ultimately I pray for those skills for him but I don't know if I could handle him not being with me. I know God will have to provide. My son is my life.
Prayers sent for you.
Game 4 is on TAP tonite in Fort Worth . The Girls are trying to cheer the boys on to even their record at 2-2. Homecoming was great and she got a mum almost as long as she is tall. Scholarship Adution coming up Oct 2nd for a full ride scholarship.
As much as we may think they don't, the times are always changing. Sometimes perhaps, so slowly we can't even see it but yet change occurs all around us.
HUH, somebody would have to be in a comma to think life is slowly changing.
Quote from: Valleysports on September 03, 2015, 10:46:54 pm
Oh you've got a lot to learn - haha. I've had two serious student daughters, one is still in med school. Serious BF for several years, means no incentive to come home. And now the son has a GF. Mom's cooking has competition! :'(
I am finding it nice. As long as I get a text every now and then I am a happy camper. Think I will go fishing today.
Quote from: fastdrop on September 19, 2015, 06:58:20 am
Quote from: Valleysports on September 03, 2015, 10:46:54 pm
Oh you've got a lot to learn - haha. I've had two serious student daughters, one is still in med school. Serious BF for several years, means no incentive to come home. And now the son has a GF. Mom's cooking has competition! :'(
I am finding it nice. As long as I get a text every now and then I am a happy camper. Think I will go fishing today.
I've got one that will text/return a text every time, another that I'm lucky to hear from once a week, haha. At least the baby is still under my thumb.......
Quote from: fastdrop on September 19, 2015, 06:54:43 am
As much as we may think they don't, the times are always changing. Sometimes perhaps, so slowly we can't even see it but yet change occurs all around us.
HUH, somebody would have to be in a comma to think life is slowly changing.
You have aroused the interest of literacy teachers with that assertion Fastdrop!
Ever since my youngest went to college, I've actually talk to him more then when he was at home. He calls me every day and sometimes twice a day
Yeah my youngest one (he) and I have been getting closer, but the other two going, going, gone.
I suppose like anything else, relationships change over time. When it's your own kids, it can be hard to accept but when I look back on my own life - when I hit the ages my kids are now - my relationships with my parents changed to. I guess its natural - and not always favorable.
Something else I've noticed is a narrowing of things that interest me as the years go by. In other words, I just don't find a lot of satisfaction in nearly as many things as I used to. Now that my kids are pretty much done with youth sports (and our spare time is increasing), it has become hard to find pastimes and activities to fill the void that once was occupied with many hours watching our kids play various sports over the years.
Some may say the lesson here is not to become so involve in your kids' sports but I can't agree with that. So many hours and places we visited and shared success and failure (and hopefully learned from it) would be hard to duplicate in any other way.
Quote from: Valleysports on September 20, 2015, 08:46:33 am
Yeah my youngest one (he) and I have been getting closer, but the other two going, going, gone.
Must be girl's, my middle one is the outlier, and my only girl. She drives me crazy, but, I just try to keep my mouth shut.......
Quote from: sevenof400 on September 20, 2015, 10:21:47 am
I suppose like anything else, relationships change over time. When it's your own kids, it can be hard to accept but when I look back on my own life - when I hit the ages my kids are now - my relationships with my parents changed to. I guess its natural - and not always favorable.
Something else I've noticed is a narrowing of things that interest me as the years go by. In other words, I just don't find a lot of satisfaction in nearly as many things as I used to. Now that my kids are pretty much done with youth sports (and our spare time is increasing), it has become hard to find pastimes and activities to fill the void that once was occupied with many hours watching our kids play various sports over the years.
Some may say the lesson here is not to become so involve in your kids' sports but I can't agree with that. So many hours and places we visited and shared success and failure (and hopefully learned from it) would be hard to duplicate in any other way.
While I don't have the Saturday morning games/practices etc, I still enjoy going to the high school games and watching. Although that is about to run out of kids who were younger siblings of those who played with mine.
RP my oldest is a girl and she drives me nuts too. Both boys are on the right track though
I've gotten closer to my parents since I moved away for college. I talk to each of them at least five times per week
Quote from: ricepig on September 20, 2015, 10:30:54 am
While I don't have the Saturday morning games/practices etc, I still enjoy going to the high school games and watching. Although that is about to run out of kids who were younger siblings of those who played with mine.
I think that connection (or the absence of it) is important in determine the strength of our bond to a school. It is hard to be overly concerned about an outcome of a sporting event without
some connection to it.
The lack of (or our weakness of) social bonds today as compared to a generation (or two) ago is telling.
Once the kid heads SW to College we will be hitting those College games instead of HS on Friday Nights.
Oct is almost here and this month I have our last Band Night and our SR Night next to last game of the year cause the final is on the road this year;
Well the Fall part of my Daughters UIL Band is done. Band night was last Friday and Senior Night is next week .
I was thinking about this thread earlier today as a result of one of those weird moments life sometimes throws at you. I walked into one of those combo gas service stations / food stores that are just about everywhere now. Not really paying attention to anything in particular, my attention turned toward the television playing somewhat loudly in the corner. The Channel 11 morning news was on but as I watched for a few seconds, I couldn't place the broadcast. For some reason, Channel 11 just didn't register in my mind - and then it hit me.
I couldn't recall the last time I watched Channel 11 for anything.
Now I grew up in an era where we had an antennae to receive over the air TV broadcasts. Later on when I moved to Arkansas, I recall that 4, 7 and 11 were it for choices (I never watched Channel 2 back then). The starting of Channel 16 was big since we now had a fourth choice.
And now look where we are. I can't watch 4/7/11/16 anymore because most of the programming is awful and commercial infested. And then there is the blight called satellite TV. The point here though is a lack (more a loss) of a common source of information (local TV) that used to tie us together in someways.
No more.
Not TV, newspaper, radio - even sports can do that anymore.
I'm not sure we realize what we may have lost.
We have more channels than Carters has Liver pills. Yes I remember going out and using a pipe wrench to turn the Antenna to get a better picture. Growing up in Monroe County we could get the Memphis and Greenville TV stations if the weather was right.
The Kid is taking care of business and the March toward the Holidays goes on.
Friday Night My Daughter was escorted on the Field at GHS for the Last time as a Varsity Cheerleader and Captain of this years Squad. It was a emotional time for all 3 of us and My BIL drove up from Austin to be with us and take pictures. We finish the regular season on the Road this week.
I am sure it was an emotional time....I can only imagine how I will respond when the time comes. They grow up so very fast. Why we must love them with all our hearts each and every day and never take one second of their smile and joy for granted. Best of Luck and God Bless you and your family.
Quote from: PrivateLesson on November 02, 2015, 02:10:36 pm
I am sure it was an emotional time....I can only imagine how I will respond when the time comes. They grow up so very fast. Why we must love them with all our hearts each and every day and never take one second of their smile and joy for granted. Best of Luck and God Bless you and your family.
Thanks is just seems like yesterday she was in mini Cheer Camp and tonight she cheer for the Volleyball team who in the playoffs.
Quote from: Lions84 on November 02, 2015, 09:46:51 am
Friday Night My Daughter was escorted on the Field at GHS for the Last time as a Varsity Cheerleader and Captain of this years Squad. It was a emotional time for all 3 of us and My BIL drove up from Austin to be with us and take pictures. We finish the regular season on the Road this week.
My daughter had her first year of cheer this fall. It was very fun.
So many thoughts, feelings and emotions come to the surface when we are faced with events that delineate time so clearly. Enjoy these days.
I can't help but wonder that at the same time many of us struggle to find meaning in our lives that we can miss such important moments that we may not see ever.again. Do everything you can to remember these moments.
Quote from: sevenof400 on November 03, 2015, 08:14:19 pm
So many thoughts, feelings and emotions come to the surface when we are faced with events that delineate time so clearly. Enjoy these days.
I can't help but wonder that at the same time many of us struggle to find meaning in our lives that we can miss such important moments that we may not see ever.again. Do everything you can to remember these moments.
But oh my old friend/coaching buddy just wait until we resurface as coaches/referees for our grandkids!!!
Quote from: AirWarren on November 03, 2015, 07:27:51 pm
Quote from: Lions84 on November 02, 2015, 09:46:51 am
Friday Night My Daughter was escorted on the Field at GHS for the Last time as a Varsity Cheerleader and Captain of this years Squad. It was a emotional time for all 3 of us and My BIL drove up from Austin to be with us and take pictures. We finish the regular season on the Road this week.
My daughter had her first year of cheer this fall. It was very fun.
Enjoy it , Take Plenty of Pictures it goes by too fast.
To night my Daughter Cheers in her last regular season Game.
My son just turned 6. He has a learning disability and I enjoy every moment with him. Me and his mother is split so I get every other weekend and a few days during the week when we can get along. Its been a struggle but he is learning so much every day
Quote from: Lions84 on November 06, 2015, 09:49:56 am
To night my Daughter Cheers in her last regular season Game.
We won and are off to the Playoffs for the 3rd time in her 4 years of HS Cheer leading.
Baby Girl cheered in her last Varsity Football Game forever Sat Night. Our boys fought hard but got knocked out.
This month we buy her SR Ad and next month we order her last HS Annual.
We are one year behind you Lions84. And then we will have an empty nest. I've talked to a few folks at this same stage of life and to say the least, it will take some adjustment. In a million years, I never would have thought this may be the toughest portion of adult life but it sure seems to be shaping up as such.
Ive got many more years before that. My son started Kindergarten but might be delayed a year with his speech impetitment. So much of todays world is social skills and he is very behind in that department. I am so worried about him growing up with that speech problem this day and age.
Quote from: sevenof400 on November 16, 2015, 06:37:42 pm
We are one year behind you Lions84. And then we will have an empty nest. I've talked to a few folks at this same stage of life and to say the least, it will take some adjustment. In a million years, I never would have thought this may be the toughest portion of adult life but it sure seems to be shaping up as such.
I understand We are blessed that in our Adult SS class at Church we have couples who have kids out of college and one still in HS , Kid or kids out of the house in College or Married, and 2 with Sr's like us. Being able to talk with the empty nesters has been a blessing.
Quote from: Legend on November 17, 2015, 05:42:39 am
Ive got many more years before that. My son started Kindergarten but might be delayed a year with his speech impetitment. So much of todays world is social skills and he is very behind in that department. I am so worried about him growing up with that speech problem this day and age.
Occupationa/Speech therapy in pediatrics is a wonderful thing. Pray hard and continue to work with him. Things will be ok.
Quote from: AirWarren on November 17, 2015, 07:00:01 pm
Quote from: Legend on November 17, 2015, 05:42:39 am
Ive got many more years before that. My son started Kindergarten but might be delayed a year with his speech impetitment. So much of todays world is social skills and he is very behind in that department. I am so worried about him growing up with that speech problem this day and age.
Occupationa/Speech therapy in pediatrics is a wonderful thing. Pray hard and continue to work with him. Things will be ok.
Yep your kid got way more help available to him now than they did even 10 years ago. The School and Shriners both should have programs for him to go to.
He went to that Shmieding Center in Lowell and its pretty cool but they classifed him as having a intellectual disabitlity which is nice way of saying hes mentally retarded and hes a brilliant kid just his motor and social skills are lacking. I was very upset with the lady who diagnosed him. He has 3 types of therapy 3 times a week and they do a great job with him at the FCLC. He loves going there and what I love the most is my son goes to school with kids with alot worse disabilites than him and when he sees one in public he will give them a hug and call him friends opposed to staring. He thinks its normal!
Quote from: Legend on November 19, 2015, 12:14:44 pm
He went to that Shmieding Center in Lowell and its pretty cool but they classifed him as having a intellectual disabitlity which is nice way of saying hes mentally retarded and hes a brilliant kid just his motor and social skills are lacking. I was very upset with the lady who diagnosed him. He has 3 types of therapy 3 times a week and they do a great job with him at the FCLC. He loves going there and what I love the most is my son goes to school with kids with alot worse disabilites than him and when he sees one in public he will give them a hug and call him friends opposed to staring. He thinks its normal!
You stick to your guns Brother The School tested our daughter in 5th grade and they said she had a 70 IQ we told them they were full of crap and kept working with her and getting her tutoring through Sylvan Learning Center for nearly 2 years. They told us to have her tested for Dyslexia we did and got her into the MTA program and today she a Sr , ranked 19th out of 140 and a 3.5 gpa.
+100 :)
My kid can run You Tube XBOX PS3 and any kind of smart phone but they want to label him as intelectually disabled. He would get frusterated on something then give up on the rest and i pointed that out and the lady thought I was dumb
Hang in there and ask around for support groups My daughter is very verbal learner If she hears it she learns it. I cant tell you the hours I have read to her the past 17 years.
My son is the other way around. He is a visual learner. Thank you everyone for your support. Only those who have raised children with disabilities understand the day to day struggle and I know there are families whose struggles are far worse than mine but when its your own the struggle doesnt matter its still there.
Quote from: Legend on November 25, 2015, 07:28:24 am
My son is the other way around. He is a visual learner. Thank you everyone for your support. Only those who have raised children with disabilities understand the day to day struggle and I know there are families whose struggles are far worse than mine but when its your own the struggle doesnt matter its still there.
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Tonite my Daughter attends her last Fall Sports Banquet where she will be recognized at the Only SR Varsity Cheerleader. The milestones of her SR year are passing by like a Cotton Belt Express Train.
I only get to see him every other weekend and its very hard to cram 2 weeks into 2 days. My finace oldest son came up to me one day and I told him I was very proud of how he is with my son. The ten yr old told me that he knows hes different from his little brother (same age normal and gives him heck). I didnt even know how to respond to that.
Quote from: Lions84 on December 02, 2015, 10:32:15 am
Tonite my Daughter attends her last Fall Sports Banquet where she will be recognized at the Only SR Varsity Cheerleader. The milestones of her SR year are passing by like a Cotton Belt Express Train.
Did I tell you that after they leave the nest, it's every bit as sad as you're imagining it might be?
Quote from: Valleysports on December 03, 2015, 05:03:09 pm
Quote from: Lions84 on December 02, 2015, 10:32:15 am
Tonite my Daughter attends her last Fall Sports Banquet where she will be recognized at the Only SR Varsity Cheerleader. The milestones of her SR year are passing by like a Cotton Belt Express Train.
Did I tell you that after they leave the nest, it's every bit as sad as you're imagining it might be?
ikr
Quote from: Valleysports on December 03, 2015, 05:03:09 pm
Quote from: Lions84 on December 02, 2015, 10:32:15 am
Tonite my Daughter attends her last Fall Sports Banquet where she will be recognized at the Only SR Varsity Cheerleader. The milestones of her SR year are passing by like a Cotton Belt Express Train.
Did I tell you that after they leave the nest, it's every bit as sad as you're imagining it might be?
A few years ago, I would have had no idea how much truth there is in that statement. Now the truth haunts me every day.
In my prayers. I can't even imagine.
Quote from: Valleysports on December 03, 2015, 05:03:09 pm
Quote from: Lions84 on December 02, 2015, 10:32:15 am
Tonite my Daughter attends her last Fall Sports Banquet where she will be recognized at the Only SR Varsity Cheerleader. The milestones of her SR year are passing by like a Cotton Belt Express Train.
Did I tell you that after they leave the nest, it's every bit as sad as you're imagining it might be?
Yes and so has several fathers in my SS class who have daughters 2-5 years older than my daughter.
Well the kid got another acceptance letter to Ok Baptist University in Shawnee OK. So she been accepted into 2 colleges and it not even Christmas yet. On another note this will be her last Christmas at home as a HS student. She will be 18 and in College this time next year.
What is she wanting to major in?
There is a part of me that knows everything changes (and to expect change). Yet just as has been said there is no way to adequately prepare for having kids, there is also no way to prepare for them leaving home. I think back on the struggles we went though to put our kids in the best home we could - those spaces we worked so hard to provide and maintain transitioning to haunting reminders of those now absent.
I guess I start to understand a bit better why some people move when their next is empty.
Another aspect I see (and sense) are the changes in relationships occurring - not just with the child who is about to leave and his/her parent but the other familial relationships as well. It is a process over which we have little (if any) control.
Sorry for such a depressing thought.....
True - you'll gradually lose contact with other parents (friends) your kids went to school and played sports with. However they'll be replaced with other friends who'll come into your life, with your new interest. I recommend visiting the Senior Citizens Home now, so you'll already know everyone when you check in .
Quote from: Legend on December 16, 2015, 10:00:34 am
What is she wanting to major in?
Piano composition She will teach Piano and play at a Church after College.
Today her last day of the Fall Semester of her SR Year of HS. Dear Lord where did the time go.
My oldest is 6...but you guys are leaving me depressed about 12 years from now
I have not experienced this struggle. Our youngest of three girls left the home in August of last year. There's been the usual thoughts of missing certain things about having the girls around, but there's also been a burgeoning of the marital relationship. My wife and I are going to have our very first Christmas date of our entire married life this year. We had a little one when we got married and have never had a one-on-one, husband-wife gift exchange for Christmas. It's just one example of many of the type I could give.
I have found the free time wonderful. I'm sure it helps that we've been ever-so fortunate that all three of our girls have turned out pretty well-adjusted and so far have lived fairly crisis free lives on their own. I recognized early on that relationship changes talked about so much were going to require changes from me. I knew when each one left my role would change, to use a sports metaphor, from coach to cheerleader. I still advise and guide, but only when asked, even when I know they're messing up.
They don't belong to me any longer. Indeed they never did, they were just put in my care for a couple decades. They always belonged to God and they still do, so I trust Him to continue handling things as He sees best, albeit with much prayer from me on their behalf.
But for us it's not been a huge struggle. We struggle way more trying to get my sister-in-law raised and she's older than both of us. :-\
Quote from: HF on December 20, 2015, 09:22:36 pm
My oldest is 6...but you guys are leaving me depressed about 12 years from now
I wish I could tell you how to prepare for it HF, but I don't know that you can.
For now, enjoy the time with your kids as much as you can.
Haven't been here in a LONG time. Interesting thread. Mrs. ppop & I just spent our 4th Christmas morning with a totally empty nest. Both kids are married and our daughter has given us three beautiful grands with #4 due next month. They spend Christmas Day with their immediate family, just like we taught them.
The first couple of months were really tough. Depressing even. Luckily, my wife & I still love to be with each other! This is the best time of our life. (Of course, we've said that about every time of our lives.)
Turns out we love each other even more than we did when we were in college. Times change. Families change. Relationships last.
We've been through a lot, including a bilateral mastectomy resulting from invasive ductile carcinoma. (She's doing great after surgery & chemo.) We're stronger now than ever.
Hang in there guys. It gets SO much better!
Well my Daughter her last first day of the Spring Semester today. In May she Graduates. We spent part of the Holiday with her writing papers for Scholarships and me and momma relearning the ever changing student loan system. Glad we got a SS member who had one just get out of TCU and has told us he will walk us through and ensure we don't make the 2 mistakes he did.
Quote from: ppop on December 25, 2015, 10:16:14 pm
Haven't been here in a LONG time. Interesting thread. Mrs. ppop & I just spent our 4th Christmas morning with a totally empty nest. Both kids are married and our daughter has given us three beautiful grands with #4 due next month. They spend Christmas Day with their immediate family, just like we taught them.
The first couple of months were really tough. Depressing even. Luckily, my wife & I still love to be with each other! This is the best time of our life. (Of course, we've said that about every time of our lives.)
Turns out we love each other even more than we did when we were in college. Times change. Families change. Relationships last.
We've been through a lot, including a bilateral mastectomy resulting from invasive ductile carcinoma. (She's doing great after surgery & chemo.) We're stronger now than ever.
Hang in there guys. It gets SO much better!
Love hearing these stories.
Quote from: ppop on December 25, 2015, 10:16:14 pm
Haven't been here in a LONG time. Interesting thread. Mrs. ppop & I just spent our 4th Christmas morning with a totally empty nest. Both kids are married and our daughter has given us three beautiful grands with #4 due next month. They spend Christmas Day with their immediate family, just like we taught them.
The first couple of months were really tough. Depressing even. Luckily, my wife & I still love to be with each other! This is the best time of our life. (Of course, we've said that about every time of our lives.)
Turns out we love each other even more than we did when we were in college. Times change. Families change. Relationships last.
We've been through a lot, including a bilateral mastectomy resulting from invasive ductile carcinoma. (She's doing great after surgery & chemo.) We're stronger now than ever.
Hang in there guys. It gets SO much better!
Thanks for the encouragement. I need it some days.
5 more regular season Basketball games , Playoffs and then Cheer Squad Tryouts and my daughter's HS Cheer career and her reign as Captain will be officially over as of March 11th 2016. She will also work with the Sponsor in May to set up Mini Cheer Camp. It gone by so fast.
Working Basketball Concessions tonite for the 2nd to last time ever for me and momma. We got smart 3 years ago and always open and do the 4-6 shift for the Band then go to the game. Closing means your up there till 9:45-10 pm.
This week we work our last Concessions in HS. How the time is flying bye. In Feb we got to College for finalize her scholarships and pay our deposits on the dorm and other stuff.
This week my daughter cheers her last Varsity Regular Season Basketball games. Another Chapter of her HS career closes.
Flowers ordered , Poster made and tomorrow evening My Daughter will cheer for the Last time at Godley High School on our Home Court.
My stomach is a wreck and it only Thursday. #SR2016 is blowing by like a Cotton Belt Express Train.
After this she has road playoff games for the Girls and Cheer Tryout Camp and other than some special send offs or public events she is done with her 4 years of Cheering for GHS!
I pulled it off and she was shocked. The Fans and both teams gave her a standing ovation.
I had this read by the Game announcer.
Tonite we want to recognize our Sr. Varsity Cheer Captain Tiffany Simons.
For the past 4 years she has Followed and Cheered for the Wildcats and Lady Cats from Byron Nelson to the North, Temple to the South , Athens to the East and Cisco to the West. In Heat, Cold and Pouring Rain she cheered them across the State. Tonite is her last time to Cheer on this Court,
Thanks Tiffany for your 4 years of Cheering on the Wildcats of Godley High.
The Announcer added she also cheered with many and several times alone. Her Freshman year by time district started all the other JV Cheerleaders had been kicked off the squad and my daughter cheered 6 games by herself.
Well the Boys lost thier play in game and the Girls were upset in the 2nd round so My Daughters HS Cheer leading Career is OVER.
Bummed Dad this week.
Last Friday We paid her deposits for College at Howard Payne and she got her Student ID Number and will get her roommate assignment in April. She gets to move in a week early cause she playing in the pit for the Yellow Jacket Band.
All this milestones passing by and the reality my daughter is almost grown is making me sad. But you have them to raise them and growing up part of it.
Well I got one more Band concert to go and my kid will be done with HS Band.
Got the list done and the scouting done. So we will be going to Target for College and to Lowe's for some other things.
Kid is off today at her last UIL Social Studies Meet unless her team wins then they move on.
They finished 2nd in the Region and got a Team Silver Medal , The kid earned a 5th place ribbon out of 40 + others in the Social Studies Meet.
Today she received her letter welcoming her into the National Honor Society. Our District has higher standards than National and requires Honor Classes to get in. Her Online Latin 3 Class from Oxford University qualified her this year.
My daughter been accepted into National Honor Society.. she finally got in since she took Latin 3 this year. Our HS requires at least 1 College or Dual Credit Class to get in. She had the grades since her 10th grade year.
She also earned Superior ++ in Regional Piano Guild Contest last week.
Band Banquet this week and Prom on Saturday so May going to be a full pull month for us all.
Well we survived Prom and Mothers day. Now this week it Sr Pep Rally Friday and the count down continues.
I cryed during Sr. Pep Rally when my daughter and other Sr Cheerleader were called out as part of the ceremony. It was the last time they Cheered at GHS.
Tonite she gets inducted into NHS and Tuesday is the Final Band Concert of the year.
Awards day today The Kid got Perfect Attendance Sr Year , Highest average in Sr English and Economics.
Well in 14 more days she OFF to college.
We moved her in Sunday afternoon the 14th and she really growing up at College. Once My Bride gets over her female surgery we will really celebrate being empty Nesters!
TMI
Quote from: Fred Bird on August 23, 2016, 09:09:53 am
TMI
We will be able to go to movies , to eat and not tied to the schools after school activities schedule. Gee Whizz Fred!
Quote from: Lions84 on August 23, 2016, 02:51:03 pm
We will be able to go to movies , to eat and not tied to the schools after school activities schedule. Gee Whizz Fred!
Well you didn't need to talk about her female surgery!
Quote from: Fred Bird on August 23, 2016, 05:00:06 pm
Well you didn't need to talk about her female surgery!
LOL
She gets to play for the first time in the college band this Saturday night in Brownwood Texas.
Kid enjoying College, Coming in for a visit this weekend.
We had a good visit and we will see her at a Band contest in 2 weeks not far from the house. I continued to be amazed how she is maturing and growing into a young adult before my eyes. It seems just yesterday she was in my lap as we listened to Butterfly kisses.
Going to see the Kid Sat afternoon cause they are a going to be an show band for a UIL Band contest less than a hour from the house.
The Wife turned to me at the band contest last Sat and said it is awlful strange to be here and at the game the other night and not see Tiffany on the sidelines cheering or playing in the band at halftime. We heading out after work to attend Parent Weekend at HPU.
Was down at the College for Parent Weekend , She played in the Band and the boys got slaughted. We had a great time.
Baby Girl is home and we are going to my Wife's HS Homecoming.
Went down and saw the kid and took her out to eat after the game. Band was great , the football team not so much.
Kid was home for Thankgiving and is slowly turning into a great young woman before my eyes.
My daughter was home Dec 8th till yesterday when we loaded her back up for her Spring Sememster at College.